Diamante Lavendar Interview

Life is indeed a mirror. Let’s gaze into it together and see what we shall behold. Join me in my life journey of attempting to make this world a better place with each book that I publish.

What inspired you to write?
I have been writing poetry since I was a child. As I got older I decided to write about the misfortunes I've had in life...and there have been a lot...to help other people get through their troubles.

Did the inspiration to write come to you suddenly, or had you been thinking about it some time?
I've been thinking about writing for years. I wasn't always sure of what I would write. I just knew that I wanted to.

How did you tell your story? In other words, did you use an outline, or just write your story from start to finish?
My book Breaking The Silence is a winner of five awards. It is the story of my life written in a fictional format (names and places have been changed). I wrote it in a diary/memoir type of format sprinkled with life lessons that I've learned along the way. And as the years go by, the more lessons I learn.

Did you receive any encouragement from family and friends, or did you work on your book alone?
My youngest daughter Kelby, God rest her soul, was my cheerleader and inspiration. She told me I had to write about the things that happened to me because it would help so many people. The unthinkable happened two months ago. She passed away, leaving me even more devastated than I've ever been...in the wake of publication of my new book Poetry and Ponderings which will be published by Written Dreams Publishing in the next month or so. Poetry and Ponderings has been dedicated to my precious daughter. She will always be my inspiration. Soon I will be writing a biography about her.

What was the most difficult part of writing your book?
The memories. They were torturous. I would cry and write, hoping that my pain would make a difference to someone else. Now I'm in even more pain and planning on writing about my daughter Kelby who was an amazing person of grit and love.

What was the most enjoyable aspect of writing your book?
Getting the emotions onto paper. It was a form of catharsis for me. It helped me put things in perspective. Also being able to help other people. That was worth the pain of writing.

Did you experience any personal transformation after the book was published?
Yes. I felt like my pain had a reason. The reason? To help others. To give them hope and to let them know that they can heal from trauma.

What’s something that gets in the way of your creativity?
Noise. Distraction. I write at night when it's quiet. It's very difficult for me to think when there is background noise of any type.

What strategies do you use to deal with criticism?
I realize everyone is on their own journey. Not all people will understand and that's okay. It's not worth the extra angst to worry about others' opinions. I simply write about what I know...what I've learned...and hope it will help someone else.

Where did you grow up and what is your favorite/worst childhood memory?
I grew up in the Midwest United States. If you want to know my worst childhood memories, buy Breaking The Silence. I do need to mention that it has won four awards for Inspirational Fiction, however. It's not all gloom and doom. There is wisdom and understanding, hope and healing found within as well.

Do you have a favorite quote?
"Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." It speaks for itself...

What is your favorite show on TV?
I don't watch T.V. But I enjoy comedies (movies) once in a while.

Favorite movie?
Liar Liar with Jim Carrey. I absolutely love the irony of that movie! Hilarious!

Favorite book?
I don't have one. I read all types of spiritual books and an occasional fiction work. I love studying about the spirit realm and Heaven since two of my children are there.

Who would you want to meet if you could? Dead or alive.
Abraham Lincoln. He was a man of many sorrows yet he still succeeded at doing great things. I hope I'll meet him some day...

Is there a talent you wish you had?
Not really. I've lived long enough to be grateful for what I do have and at peace with what I don't.

What’s something about you that would surprise us?
I write music and sing. I'm beginning to write music again and will be publishing music somewhere on the internet down the line.

Describe yourself in 3 words!
Caring. Spiritual. Motivated.