I am a freelance health and wellness writer, poet and storyteller from Vancouver Island, Canada.

2017-11-28
What I Learned From Reconciling With My Dad
I reconciled with my dad this past summer. It had been about 6 years since we last spoke or saw... The post What I Learned From Reconciling With My Dad appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-11-23
Doing Less to Be More
NOTE: If you’re a newsletter subscriber of mine this post will look familiar. I received so many lovely replies to my... The post Doing Less to Be More appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-11-03
The snow connection
I quite like the snow. My hubby is not much of a fan, mainly because its presence coincides with shoveling... The post The snow connection appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-10-24
Validating the Victim: Truths on Being Violated and Sharing Your Story
I don’t often write posts that are timely and topical. Ie, ones that reference what’s happening in Hollywood or on... The post Validating the Victim: Truths on Being Violated and Sharing Your Story appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-10-17
You Can Edit Your Story
You can edit your story. Perhaps you’ll choose to rework it and tell it a different way. Perhaps instead of... The post You Can Edit Your Story appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-10-10
Avoiding your fears through addiction
I might have spent 20 plus years on a convoluted quest to feed an addiction to things, like alcohol, cigarettes,... The post Avoiding your fears through addiction appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-09-30
Why I won’t be blogging on the huffington post anymore
When I first started blogging, I desperately wanted to become a Huffington Post blogger. Fast forward a year and change... The post Why I won’t be blogging on the huffington post anymore appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-09-28
Listening to the Right Voice
There is a voice in my head that has consumed my life for over 20 years, and it tells me... The post Listening to the Right Voice appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-09-14
Why I Use Acupuncture for Anxiety and Pain
The first time I tried acupuncture I was around 21. I was living in Calgary, and doing a really good... The post Why I Use Acupuncture for Anxiety and Pain appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-09-07
On Quitting, Crying, and Shaming
I quit my job the other day, an act which was preceded by a series of long time comin’ emotional... The post On Quitting, Crying, and Shaming appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-08-29
In Defence of Quitting
So I came across this quote on Facebook the other day: “Winners are not people who never fail. Winners are... The post In Defence of Quitting appeared first on Must Love Crows ....

2017-08-22
Three Things I Suck At
I just got back from vacation where I acquired a tan and some clarity. Somewhere between the beach days and the exceptional meals, I tapped into some realizations that have me feeling pretty damn good. (Side note: never down play the importance of taking a few days off.) Over the......

2017-08-11
Full Moon Clarity on Codependency
My life over the past few years has been a steady flow of life altering realizations, and I can thank the full moon for it. That sounds hippy-ish, which I have no problem owning — I am a hippy at heart. I just still shave my armpits and wouldn’t pass up vintage......

2017-08-08
Why Your Parents Are Jerks, and That’s OK
About 10 years ago I got arrested for being drunk in public. Long story short, I was in a really bad state. I was severely depressed, drinking heavily, and couldn’t see past the bottle in front of me. No one in my family was capable of helping during this time;......

2017-08-06
When You Don’t Relate to Your Relatives
Disclaimer: this post contains a bit of emotionally digressed content. Which means I do a little bit of bitching, followed by a solid message of empowerment. So bear with me. (PS: That’s a very nervous me, with a cameo by my mom’s arm, on my way to my brother’s wedding.)...

2017-08-01
Failing at Perfection: Tales From Last Weekend
If you’ve read any of the 100+ posts on this blog, you might have an idea of what I struggle with the most. It’s my relentless desire for perfection, which is quite frankly ruining my life. That sounds dramatic. Nothing had been ruined. It just makes everything so fucking difficult.......

2017-07-15
Why I Use Pessimism as a Survival Tactic
I’ve been slightly obsessed with the idea of pessimism lately. I keep thinking about how it harms us, but also how it serves us. Lot’s of note jotting and talking to Siri about it. I used to be a hard-core pessimist. Things are better these days, and I’m generally quite......

2017-07-07
Why I Lost My Virginity to a Jerk
This is one of the hardest things I’ve ever written about. It’s still hard for me to even type these words, right now, without getting emotional. That’s how deeply this has all affected me. It’s also the reason why I’m sharing this story, because I know I’m not the only......

2017-07-04
Why You Need To Keep Putting Yourself Out There, Spelling Mistakes and All
Part of the reason for my being happy today is because, in spite of the fear of how I might be perceived or what may have been said about me, I put myself out there. Pressing post on my first article for my blog on Dec 31st, 2015 was the......

2017-06-29
What I Learned From Being Car Shamed
So I got car shamed last week and it was lame. Here’s the back story: I was at work when I got an email from one of the tenants (we rent spaces to people) urging me to check out an article on how to give my car a poor man’s......

2017-06-22
Why Bad Boys and Contouring Sticks Are Ruining Your Life
I was listening to John Mayer the other day (thanks Spotify for the random playlists that really just get me), and I thought, “I don’t care how many Hollywood broads he’s bedded — this guy’s voice is dreamy.” Then I acknowledged the fact that yes, this is a guy I would have......

2017-06-17
What I Learned About Acid Reflux (And Why You Doctor Doesn’t Know Everything)
Last winter I had some serious health issues. I’ll be real and tell you where it started from. I get really bad anxiety. And I’ve got a hyper-active stress response system. So when something that offers no real threat to my life occurs – like a fork drops on the......

2017-06-14
Why Assumptions Are Making Your Work Life Miserable
We create a lot of disappointment for ourselves when we make assumptions. Case in point, a previous employer of mine. He had a pretty distinguished career as far as labels go. And based on his credentials and the professional accolades he displayed throughout his office, I made the assumption that......

2017-06-13
On Writing, Goosebumps, and Doing What Lights You Up
Sometimes I create a piece of writing that gives me goosebumps. I’m so sure that it’s going to connect with people and move through the 0’s and 1’s like a virtual rash (Maybe that was a bad analogy. Because I don’t think I’ve ever heard of rash being good before.)......

2017-06-05
Why You Need To Charge Full Price For Your Services
In a world with sites like fiver, one can find cheap, low quality content services on the regular. Problem is, low quality doesn’t go far. And people like quality. They will find a way to pay for it if they value it. Sure, some people really don’t care about it....

2017-06-02
Shame And A Midweek Salad
“Must be nice” is one of those irksome phrases jealous people like to use. I had a friendship for a short time with someone who used to say it on the regular. I’d go for lunch with my mom during the week, and she’d say, “must be nice.” Like there...

2017-05-31
do what you say you’re going to do
I’ve been taking this course on Udemy by Danielle LaPorte. It’s amazing and rewarding and motivating – all positive synonyms apply. I just finished the second to last video, and felt the pull to screen grab this image: I follow this advice as absolute best I can these days, as...

2017-05-24
certainty through pain and sleeplessness
I barely slept last night because of shoulder pain. I’ve had this pain for years: been to countless physiotherapy, chiropractic and massage appointments; had needles stuck in me that led to agonizing days of recovery. Nothing has worked long-term. I’ll be good for a spell, and then I’m back into......

2017-05-17
The Freedom Call: When You Just Don’t Give A Shit Anymore
Not giving a shit is a tall task for someone who is prone to over-caring. But my ability to care about everything is dialing back as I come to realize that there are some things I am no longer capable of caring about. Case in point, cleaning up other people’s...

2017-05-10
You’re Not Being The Way I Want You To Be
You’re Not Being The Way I Want You To Be. You’re not giving me the answers I want. You’re not responding to what I say the way I want you to: the way I imagined you would. You’re not giving me advice that’s in line with what I want to......

2017-05-08
crazy uncomfortable truth
The past few days have been crazy uncomfortable for me. It hasn’t been bad enough for me to regress and make shitty decisions in an attempt to quell my discomfort. Just more like, “I gotta sort these feelings out because I am not going back down that road.” And here’s......

2017-05-06
big news about goals met
Big news to share today… I am now a Huffington post blogger! I forced myself to submit an article to the Canadian editor (Let’s be real: I was scared shitless). Apparently she liked it, because my invite came a couple of hours later. This is really freaking exciting because my......

2017-05-03
On Celebrity Admissions, Brad Pitt, and Being Real
This morning while attempting to temporarily disengage from my work before work, I came across a new interview with Brad Pitt in GQ magazine. I normally don’t get much out of these celebrity interviews. It’s hard to assume one can relate to people who live such inflated and embellished existences.......

2017-04-29
anger and following your calling
Anger has played a big role in my life. It’s been my side-kick; my go-to response when someone tries to tell me the way I’m feeling is wrong. Or that the way I inherently am isn’t OK. There have been plenty of times when my behaviour has been in need...

2017-04-20
lessons on guilt, social media blocking and following your own path
I was blocked on social media by a friend the other day. Yeah I know, it sounds like a pre-teen recess conversation. But there is a point to it all so bear with me. Here’s the back story. But to summarize for those who don’t have the time or inclination...

2017-04-19
poetry and ramblings on mercy and freedom
I dig the word mercy. Perhaps because I was disconnected from it for so much of my life. Sometimes when things are going haywire in the old head, I take a big breath in, and on the exhale I say — “I am mercy.” Because I want to be mercy incarnate. Mercy:...

2017-04-03
non-ragey communication: speaking up instead of spinning out
I started my day with a great quote by Mark Nepo: …when someone says or does something that hurts me — I have learned to absorb the hit and pretend that nothing has changed, that everything is the same. But when I do this, my energy is used up in maintaining the...

2017-03-25
the lipstick fix: committing to a less is more life
One of my best girlfriends and I have been working on committing to a less-is-more life. She wants to focus on being in the moment for herself and for her family. And get rid of a bunch of stuff, because too much stuff means stress. I feel the same way....

2017-03-22
the self-care complexity
Yesterday I published a new post on my blog about guilt. In truth, it was inspired by something that happened yesterday morning. A friend had been sending me guilt-laced messages for quite some time, and there was a new one in my inbox. For me it was the “enough-is-enough” point....

2017-03-21
silence is the new rage
I don’t react well to guilt and manipulation: it makes me want to rage. Unfortunately, I’ve got a fair bit of internal guilt going on right now: sick with the flu, my ability to be productive is basically tapped out. Save for making a small meal for myself, everything is...

2017-03-17
to look or not to look
I read a lovely passage from Mark Nepos’s The Book of Awakening this morning: Though it shifts throughout our lives, according to our devotions, I believe each of us is born with a natural leaning toward looking or not looking. Not surprisingly, I am one of those feminine seers: I...

2017-03-13
connection is kryptonite: why there’s more to mean people than you think
When someone is mean to you, it’s hard not to assume they don’t care about you. But that’s not necessarily the case, particularly when it comes to family members. They just care more about staying to true to the processes they use to make themselves feel better than they do...

2017-03-02
nursing the hurt
I came across this phrase the other day, nursing the hurt. When I first read it I started thinking, “Isn’t it silly how much we nurse and coddle our pain? Geez. We all gotta let go of the stuff that’s bringing us down.” But then I had an interesting couple...

2017-02-28
superhero genes
We are a lot stronger than we think we are. The old me would have rolled her eyes at that truth and exclaimed it to be total bullshit. But I came across it the other day via someones feed and sat with it for a minute. And appreciated it. I...

2017-02-27
the day the lights dimmed: a first person account of being over medicated for depression
I was 15 when I started taking antidepressants. And contrary to popular belief, I don’t think it had anything to do with my brain chemistry. As an artistic and empathetic child (read: picked up on everyone’s emotions), I felt suffocated in my family home. However it wasn’t anyones fault: we...

2017-02-11
what i know about not knowing
Sometimes I think I have it all figured it out. And then I very quickly realize I don’t. When I first started shifting my life I was so relieved to find that I had options. I could think a different way if the old way made me miserable? Heck yes!...